Being unhappy can be fairly easy. Just follow some of these ideas:
1. Live only for yourself. Look out for #1, and of course that is YOU. Even when you feel a little tug to reach out to someone or give of yourself or your time, money, or possessions, ignore it. How will you get ahead if you’re always taking the focus off of yourself? You have places to go and things to do – you don’t have time to get off track. Besides, there are shortages in the world. If you give anything away, that means less for YOU.
2. Live only for others. If it doesn’t seem right to live only for yourself, maybe you can try this one. If you give of yourself enough, eventually you might feel good about yourself or satisfy someone. There are always going to be plenty of needs out there, so you’ll never run out of things to do. Sacrifice is the name of the game. If you burn yourself out, at least you’ll have something to show for it.
3. Live strictly from your head. Don’t waste your time getting quiet and listening for the still, small voice of your heart. There are things to do and accomplish, goals to meet. Surely one of the voices in your head must have the answers. Maybe if you lie awake at night listening to them, you’ll come up with those answers.
4. Live according to other people’s expectations. There might be things you love to do and feel drawn to, dreams you’d like to see fulfilled, but if these don’t fit in with the ideas that society or your family or friends think is normal or lead to success, better forget about them. Approval is very important.
5. Magnify the dark side. After all we need to face reality. There are a lot of ugly things in the world, and we need to concentrate on them and fight them. Watch as much of the news as possible so none of these evil things slide by you.
6. Blame. Nothing that happens to you is ever your fault. If you try hard enough, you will probably come up with the right person to blame. If this fails, blame God.
7. Look for the worst in every person and situation. Some people might look at the world through rose-colored glasses, but not you. You’re not going to trust someone or get your hopes up only to be disappointed. You’re prepared. You’ve already thought of the worse thing that could happen, so you won’t be surprised when it does.
8. Live in the past. If there were good things in the past, pine away for them and relive them over and over wishing they would return. If there were bad things in the past – people hurt you or you made mistakes – keep thinking about them and don’t give in to any idea that you should forgive others or yourself. Those voices in your head will help you a lot with this one.
9. Complain, complain, complain – I don’t mean just bring things up to try to correct or improve something. Complain about everything – the weather, your job, your circumstances, the neighbors, your kids, your country, etc. etc. etc. Make it a daily habit. This has yet been shown to make anyone’s life better, but there’s a first time for everything, right?
10. Compare yourself to others. This really works to bring about discontent. Don’t pay attention to all that talk about your unique gifts and talents – keep thinking about how you would like to be like someone else.
I’m sure there are plenty of other things you could do to assist yourself in being miserable. Misery in some ways comes naturally to our ego. Anyone who chooses to live their life on purpose can turn that around though and make a conscious decision to change that. No one is destined for unhappiness!